If you doubt yourself, then indeed you stand on shaky ground.
Self-Doubt – ooh – here’s a common bedfellow eh?
Isn’t it interesting that some of the most confident-seeming people in the world are often also the most racked by self doubt. Peter Sellers, Tony Hancock, Amy Winehouse pretty much tried to drink their doubt away – along with many, many others I suspect. No-one is immune, that’s for sure.
Lily Allen once confessed:
“I’m convinced I’m not talented at all, and I’m sure people are just about to figure it out. I’m not very good, am I? I don’t think what I do is any good. I think I’m awful. I’m not a musician. I don’t play an instrument. I write nursery rhymes.”
I think that we doubt when we have lost our sense of perspective. We have started to see what we do as do-or-die. We start to suspect that if we fail, the world will collapse, people will suffer, we will most likely die or at the very least be forced to move to the Outer Hebrides to escape the shame of making fools of ourselves in front of a public who want to have a good ol’ laugh at our presumptiousness.
Next time I feel the creeping tentacles of self-doubt taking hold I’m going to develop the idea I saw in my recent blog (A New One for the List) of just taking the mickey out of myself. Here’s some ideas I’m thinking of:
- Pulling faces at myself in the mirror.
- Cartoon myself feeling sorry for myself.
- Writing a silly poem about how bad I am at everything.
- Composing a letter to the World’s People about how important it is that I remain perfect at all times.
Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong. ~Peter T. Mcintyre
I am not a has-been. I am a will be. ~Lauren Bacall